Is One the Loneliest Number or the Best Way to Be?

Warning: heavy-handed How I Met Your Mother similies approaching.

Amongst single people, you have two types: those who want to be in a long-term relationship (Ted Mosebys) and those who don’t (Barney Stinsons). Equally, as an ex and good friend recently pointed out to me, there are two types of encoupled people: what Bridget Jones called “smug marrieds” (Eriksens) and those who envy the singles (let’s say “envious marrieds”/Robin Scherbatsky).

Regular readers of my blog, if they exist, can probably guess in which categories I tend to fall. Nonetheless, I’d like to make this more of a public service kind of blog. I’m going to discuss singledom and coupledom from these perspectives in order to provide comfort for those in a situation they aren’t entirely happy with. With that in mind, I’ll skip the Eriksons and the Barney Stinsons, as chances are they’re in exactly the situation they want to be in. Instead, this blog is to the Robins and Teds of the world. Skip to the part that most affects you.

A letter to Ted:

Ted, you’re single right now. Since you’re a metaphor rather than the actual character, I won’t tell you to be with Victoria you fucking moron. That’s a blog for another day. Instead, I’d like to list all the things that are good about being single.

  • You have the chance to be alone after a long day
  • You can sleep with whoever you want to sleep with (given the opportunity)
  • You get the whole bed to yourself!
  • You never have to compromise what you want to do, think or say
  • You only have one family to deal with at Christmas
  • In a serious relationship, your future is mapped out
  • You can socialise with friends or family without guilt of neglect
  • Watch children’s TV without judgement to see you at your worst
  • There’s no one to see you at your worst

Good Advice

A letter to Robin:

So, Robin. You’re in a happy relationship, but you envy those friends who are out being fancy free. If you were the character, I’d say DON’T MARRY BARNEY, but you’re not, so I’ll tell you the advantages of being in a (good) couple instead.

  • There’s always someone there when you’ve had a bad day
  • You get to sleep with someone who knows what you like
  • You don’t have to sleep alone
  • You can share responsibility for mistakes, gifts, etc.
  • In a serious relationship, your future is mapped out
  • You always have someone to go to a party or stay home with
  • Watch children’s TV with a partner in mockery and enjoyment
  • There’s someone to love you at your worst
  • Someone will always think and say good things about your looks/personality/insert your insecurity here

I can’t think of a way to bring this post to a satisfying conclusion without undermining the above, so have some more Alyson Hannigan instead.

Failing that, just try to be happy with what you have until the situation naturally changes. I’m trying to teach myself that life is a journey. Some views you see alone, some together, and others still you have to see in both lights to get the full effect.

Peace out.

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